What are some keys to a healthy relationship? If you look closely at
successful relationships you’ll realize many of them have certain things in
common. Here’s a list of a few things to strive for in your relationship, so
you know what to look for:
Empathy
An individual’s
ability to empathize with you is crucial in a relationship. Empathy is an
important relationship skill that both parties should develop. Empathy is the
ability to view the world from your partner’s eyes. Being able to put yourself
in your partner’s shoes is essential to building a long term relationship based
on mutual understanding. Empathy means being a team, a “we” rather than an
isolated “I”.
Acceptance
Your partner should
be able to “get” you. They should know your tastes, your likes, your dislikes,
your moods, your innate personality — they should know that “real” you, and
love you for being exactly who you are. Acceptance is a key relationship skill.
Both you and your partner should accept one another for exactly the people that
you are, faults and all. Your partner should love you because of everything
that comprises who you are. Don’t accept any less.
Chemistry
Physical chemistry is
important. While it may not be the most important thing on this list, healthy
relationships require attraction as a force. You and your partner ought to be
attracted to one another, physically and emotionally, and that attraction should
lead to a healthy level of chemistry that can be sustained over time.
Steadfastness
Your partner should
be steadfast with you in promises and obligations. With you, your partner
should be able to keep his or her word. Steadfastness leads to trust, which is
absolutely essential in healthy, long-term relationships. If your partner isn’t
steadfast with you, then you have little reason to grow trust with this person.
Do not become intimately involved with someone who cannot keep their word.
Goals
It is important that
you and your partner support each others’ goals in life. Relationships take
constant work and require that you and your partner have a willingness to work
together and grow together. Your partner should support and help you reach the
goals you want in your life.
Generosity
Your partner should
be generous with you, not in the financial sense, but in the emotional sense.
Most importantly, your partner ought to be generous with time, when it comes to
you. An essential aspect of relationships is the ability to “give”. If you
notice that your partner takes and takes without giving, perhaps it’s time to
find a new partner. Generosity is the essence of healthy relationships.
Priorities
Your partner and you
do not need to have the exact same priorities in life, but it certainly helps
if your priorities are aligned. If you want to move to India one day to teach
yoga at a spiritual retreat and your partner wants to move to Los Angeles to
jumpstart a career in the entertainment industry, your priorities are definitely
not aligned. Sometimes, for a relationship to thrive, priorities can be
adjusted or redefined, which is fine, but both parties should be equally
flexible in this.
Trust
Trust is the single
most important factor when it comes to when a relationship is a success or a
failure. You must be able to trust your partner, and your partner must be able
to trust you. And both of you should give the other person reason to trust.
With trust, you have the ability to be vulnerable — an important factor in
long-term, successful partnerships. If you can’t be vulnerable with your
partner, it’s time to move on.
Communication
Good relationships
have great communication structures. Bad relationships almost always have
terrible communication between partners. You and your partner should speak the
same language, emotionally speaking, in the sense that you should be able to
communicate your desires successfully. Neither party should be timid about
asserting themselves when appropriate, and neither party should feel shy about
communicating feelings at any point. Do you and your partner have successful
communication?
Commitment
Commitment is the
most important quality to look for when deciding a successful match. If you are
searching for love and a long-term relationship, you and your partner must be
able and willing to commit to one another, understanding all the sacrifices and
adjustments that are necessary when transitioning from single life to life as a
couple. The key to commitment is love. If you love someone, commitment should
be no less than nature.
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