Help!! My Girlfriend's Ex Keeps Re-Surfacing After They Broke Up

Good day my people,

Let me start talking about how we started, I have known this lady for a long time(Just Friends) but we started talking again few months ago after about 6 years without communicating, she is the type that I really love and want to make my wife, but an issue started coming up as a threat in between us lately.

To start with, she was dating a guy when we started talking again and I was out of the country then. We got along very well and things started getting serious overtime, she told me she has a boyfriend then but she doesn't really go into much detail at first.

When I came back, I asked about her boyfriend issue and she told me he is a cool guy but things are getting bad between them because she has been having issues with the kind of friend he keeps, their lifestyle of smoking etc and he isn't serious with any life plans which was before she found out due to long distance relationship.

She ended the relationship after we met (she has always emphasize this to know how real I am about her), the problem now is that the Ex keeps resurfacing using different strategies like begging, crying and other childish act and was always like no one can take her from him, the worst that happened recently now is that the guy wanted to commit suicide, the mother and some of his family members had to call my girlfriend to please reverse her decision on the break up so that he wouldn't end his life etc. I need suggestion on how to resolve this issue once and for all. It’s getting out of hand and I can’t keep continuing like this, likewise she too. All ideas, insults and suggestions are welcome.


Note: She has done all her part to persuade the guy stop the lifestyle and plan toward the future and stop keeping friends that are into smoking and all those lifestyle many times before I met her to no avail, thinking she can’t leave him simply because he disvirgined her and has been the only guy she had known all of her life. I know all this details personally through a friend that attended same University with her, personal background check and her words too. No one is perfect but I don't see her as the lying type and she open up to me on everything. Thanks

Hmm my brother,, you have to really asked yourself if this girl really loves you or not..
From the look of things, her ex really loves her and still loves her, so it's best for you to let the lady go,, advise her to go back to her ex..

It’s not like he cheated or he is a woman beater,, just smoking and bad friends didn't stop him from loving her..
What she should have done, was to report him to his mom and family members, so that they can advise him to dump the dangerous lifestyle and be focus on life.

The lady overreacted by going into another relationship with you because her ex had done nothing wrong,, all he needed was an elderly advice..

So my brother, let go of the girl, tell her to go back to her ex,, wish her well in life, advise her to talk to elders in her family and move on with your life..